I’ve missed you all oh so very much! I hope everyone’s doing great!!!
It feels like it’s been ages since I posted here…that’s because the last few weeks have been somewhat of a rollercoaster of surprises and emotions I clearly was not ready to face, let alone accept. So I took a little alone time to first reflect, and subsequently make some adjustments—the kind that is exciting, promising, risky, and scary all at once. That process is also what compelled me to take a serious look at what’s really been going on under the hood of my life. Let me explain.
Sometimes we experience a moment of awareness that forces us to briefly stop and re-evaluate how and where things are going in our life. We may not always follow through on it, but I am sure we all have come across it at least once in our existence. And if you haven’t yet, don’t worry…you will, sooner or later. That moment of awareness I speak of can be a thought, an emotion, or even the realization that something significant is about to happen or is happening, and needs to be addressed or acknowledged.
My most recent moment of awareness was so unexpected (and yet thrilling) it catapulted me into a whirlpool of emotions that I felt I needed to take time to declutter from a psychological standpoint, and perhaps environmental too, in order to make room for something new and extraordinary that may or may not take root. Either way it was important for me to reconnect with myself, better articulate what my dreams and wants are, and make improvements if needed. Hence the pressing desire to “take a serious look under the hood of my life.”
When I took this four-week hiatus from writing and posting to analyze things, without any doubt I was looking for specific answers. It was important for me to find out if I was on the path I truly believed was right for me, or if I was at least taking steps in the right direction. My goal was to be not just vulnerable, but brutally honest with myself and bring up all the right questions. Such as: what do I really want? How can I make myself happier? Am I the person I choose to be and doing what I want to do? Have I surrounded myself with the right people? If some long-overdue changes are necessary am I ready to make them? Etc…
If you’re like me and have had similar experiences would it then be fair to say that you know yourself very well and you have a pretty clear idea of what you want in life? Absolutely. Knowing who you are and what you want is a stepping stone to creating your own happiness, being able to contribute to someone else’s happiness, and achieving your life’s dreams. There’s one thing however that mustn’t be overlooked. Life, like everything in it, is about transitioning. We may not notice it, but all we keep doing is transition. From childhood to adulthood, from one job to another, from an older to a newer car, from one relationship to the next…you get the point. Sometimes transitioning is unavoidable and necessary; other times it isn’t. That is why doing a little reassessment and digging deep into what we truly want and need, including figuring out the best way to achieve it, is extremely important to finding happiness and fulfillment.
During my little impromptu reassessment, I discovered there’s a lot of things about myself that I love and a lot of things that I don’t like. For example I don’t like the fact when things get tough or when something doesn’t fit into my vision I am prompt to stop trying and give up, instead of adjusting and finding new ways to stay the course. This is something I must improve on. Nevertheless, I am still amazed by how a little bit of time and some willingness to be vulnerable in front of myself can make me feel empowered, more confident, and help reaffirm my belief in my own ability. The majority of us only look at our life from the outside because that’s mostly what others see. To make the most of it we must also look from the inside. I find doing so can actually have a bigger and more positive impact. Just like a vehicle, how it looks on the outside is nowhere close to being as important as what’s under its hood.
The bottom line is this: there’s nothing to lose and a lot to be gained from doing a little reevaluation every once in a while. With some reflections and honest assessments of your current life you can find out exactly what it is you want or what no longer serves you. And if you don’t like what’s going on, you can always make changes or choose a different path. For me this new path is to give love another chance. It’s never too late to begin again. All you need is the willingness to get to know yourself and be open to new dreams and new experiences.
When was the last time you looked under the hood of your life? If you haven’t done so yet I hope this post inspires you to begin today.
Love and Insight,
Carli 🇭🇹