Hey, girl! I see you. I used to be you too. You know, the one who always puts others first, never says no, and sacrifices her own dreams and desires for the sake of others. Yeah, that was me. But not anymore. One day I decided enough was enough. I made a choice to start putting myself first, without guilt or shame. And you know what? I’m thriving. And I’m here to tell you that you can break free from that cycle too!
Let’s be real, it’s exhausting being a people-pleaser. You’re always running on empty, feeling guilty for not being able to do enough, and wondering why you’re the only one who never gets to prioritize your own needs. I mean, when was the last time you did something just because you wanted to? Not because someone else needed you to, but because it made you happy?
I know the feeling all too well. The constant fatigue, the loneliness, the stuck-ness. It’s like you’re drowning in a sea of other people’s expectations, and you’re not even sure who you are anymore. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to live like that.
I used to think that saying no to others meant I was being selfish. That I was somehow less of a good friend, sister, daughter, partner… you name it. But let me tell you, that’s just not true. Saying no to others means you’re saying yes to yourself. And that’s not selfish, it’s necessary.
It’s a journey, I won’t sugarcoat it. Breaking old habits and patterns is no easy feat. But trust me when I say it’s necessary to take care of yourself, to prioritize your own dreams and desires, to make time for the things that bring you joy. And you know the best part? The people who truly care about you will understand. They’ll even be happy for you!
I want to leave you with a challenge today. It’s time to start putting yourself first. Start small if you need to. Say no to one thing that doesn’t serve you this week. Take 10 minutes for yourself each day to do something you love. Start dreaming again – what is it that you’ve always wanted to do but have been too afraid to try?
And when that guilty voice in your head starts whispering “you’re being selfish,” remind yourself that you’re not. You’re being brave. You’re being kind to yourself. And you’re being honest about what you need to thrive.
I’m living proof that you can break free from the people-pleaser trap and still be a good person. You can take care of yourself and still be loved and respected.
So, to the girl who’s been holding back, it’s time to let go of the fears and doubts that have been holding you captive. You have the strength within you to create the life you desire. Embrace your worth, your dreams, and your journey. Step into your power and watch as your world transforms.
Cheers to finally putting yourself first knowing you are worthy of love, happiness, and success.🥂
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